My Heart is Riding Shotgun

It was just nearly six years ago that Tim and I hiked in Rocky Mtn National Park. Instead of going to a main entrance, we chose an area that was actually only trail head parking. No gate. No ranger.

A few months ago a man left three voice messages for my sister, Jackie, in less than 24 hours. He said he grew up in the area and was calling to inquire about my Mom.

Today, I am reminded of this, when someone you love, who you are immensely invested in, has just died, anything and everything that you try to do, that you did without hesitation even one minute

My blog has been live since March 2020. I’ve published 78 entries and have had 5,370 visitors and 10,705 views. When I started, I didn’t have a hard list of goals.

Although I am not a risk taker, I have rarely shied away from a challenge. And for me, one of the surprising things I’ve found in grief is, it has made me feel like there’s nothing to lose.

It is fairly frequent that I write about hiking, and always, it’s more than that. Because there are analogies with life and grief that shouldn’t be ignored.

For fifteen years, I traveled several times a month for work. I loved it and missed it when it ended. There are skills you develop when you are living that life.

Acceptance. As it relates to death, once upon a time, I thought it meant accepting that the person is no longer physically with us. Accepting that it can’t be changed.

May 22, 2019 was the last day of Tim’s life on Earth. The last day of the Tim that we knew and loved. And this same day was an unwanted beginning for me.

When reaching for a purse or backpack off the top shelf of the closet, what’s the greatest thing that’s dropped to the floor?

I grew up in a very small town in the Midwest. It had one traffic light. A state highway ran through the center of town, so I am pretty sure the only reason for the light was to slow down semi-trucks.

How often do you listen to your gut? Do you trust it? I like to think about that feeling, that voice, my intuition, as a valued companion.